What to tell children - Family 1 Example

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I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, and my wife and I have been naturists since before he was born. As such I can only speculate on what a couple with kids should tell them a in the situation of going to a naturist venue for the first time, but practical experience may give some insights (hopefully!).

Adam (my son) has grown up with naturism and took to it quite naturally as a toddler. We have always walked around the house naked, and naturist friends are likely to do the same whilst here. Adam accepted this as a fact of life when he was younger and continues to do so, however he has developed a sense of when it is appropriate to be naked :o) Only once has he got it wrong, and that was when he was about 3 and he took his clothes off at a playgroup meeting!

As he's been brought up with naturism, we don't make a point of making a distinction between naturist events / places and non naturist, he just accepts both equally. We've also never given him a choice between non-naturist and naturist events - we just go. There are occasions when he seems a little self conscious, and if so we respect his wish to remain clothed, other times he's quite happy to be naked. Either way we never force it.

The biggest problem that we have come across as he gets older is the lack of suitable playmates - naturist venues (nude clubs / nude beaches / swims) seem to attract an older age group in the main, with relatively few kids in evidence and this can cause boredom problems. This may not be so much of a problem at some locations but we are limited where we can go because of the dog ...

He tells me that he has told his friends, but not his teacher. His friends said that it was disgusting but he thinks it's OK. He said that he there was no particular reason he hadn't told his teacher, it just hadn't been mentioned. We're quite open about our naturism, with all grandparents knowing about it so he can't embarrass us by mentioning it to them!

Where does this leave our hypothetical couple going to a naturist venue for the first time?

a) I think that what is said to the children will depend on their ages and maturity - under 7/8s could just be taken along and have it explained, en-route, that it is a place where they need not wear clothes if they do not want to, however they can if they want. For this to work the couple must choose a place that does not enforce a 'nude at all times' rule to allow children to be clothed if they wish. Between these ages and around 13/14 some consultation and discussion should be undertaken before the trip. If the children are against the idea perhaps a compromise along the lines of 'try it, but if you don't like it we will leave' would be a good idea. Children over the age of 14 should be old enough to be left at home, or a friend's, for the day if they don't want to go, so can be offered a 'free' choice. At this age children often don't want to go -anywhere- with their parents anyway!

b) As for what, and who, the kids tell, it should be left up to them at any age. Having said this I know most naturists are more circumspect about allowing others to know of their naturism than we are, and so are more likely to want to 'gag' their children. However this is likely to give the impression to a child, and anyone else who 'discovers' the 'secret', that there is something 'wrong' about it, giving a negative impression. In fact ISTM that this secretiveness about naturism is one of the major factors in limiting its popularity and acceptance, but I digress . . . Given the choice I expect that most kids would keep quiet about it anyway if their parents were to be secretive about it (I know my son doesn't, but he's quite outspoken generally and has picked up on our attitudes I expect). If something *is* said by the children then the parents will just have to accept it and discover that most people are tolerant of naturism.

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Miami Nude Beach Nudity, Please Read!

There's something liberating about the antic of being naked.  The freedom.  The exhilaration.  The lack of pocket lint.  Unfortunately, for most people the notion of nudity requires some rationale - no matter how silly that rationale may be.  Streaking across a football field. Skinny-dipping in a lake.  Mooning for the camera.  Photocopying your butt.  Playing naked Twister.  Flashing a nun after sixth-period class, hoping she didn't recognize you and isn't at this instant phoning your parents.  For most people, it's all about the naughty thrill of getting caught or exposing a private part.  But not for all.  No, for many it's perfectly routine, as normal and natural as, say, kissing hands or shaking a baby.

Nude beaches are the perfect denominators for these two groups, the puritans and the pure exhibitionists, the fakirs and the non-fakers. Think of it as a big game of strip poker where everybody has crappy hands.  The thing to remember is that nude sunbathing isn't about sex or exhibitionism - we'll leave that to the nudist colonies and Courtney Love.  Nude sunbathing is about elation and free-spiritedness (and avoiding wedgies and ugly tan lines).

I've made the trek to No Clothes Land many a time.  I've dropped trou in Europe, where it's no big deal - heck, even the Royal Family has displayed a boob or two (not counting Prince Charles).  Black's Beach in San Diego is world famous for nude sun worshipping.  And, of course, here in Miami, we have Haulover Beach.

One of the misconceptions about nudity is that every human body is beautiful (Right).  The key to inoffensive nude sunbathing is to do just that - sunbathe.  Do not play volleyball in the buff.  No grilling or barbecuing.  Even if your Playgirl's Mr. January, do not perform an oil and air filter change on your auto while naked.  An watch the jogging - you could poke somebody's eye out.

Nude beachgoers often have their social cliques and routines.  They picnic and fraternize, and they love to mingle.  Zoiks.  These people who sashay up and down the beach wearing nothing but a smile and a spare tire are the same folks you find in the receiving line at a wedding wielding a business card and a can of Binaca.

When I venture to Haulover, I stick close to my blanket or hit the water.  I don’t wander about.  It’s like you want to work the room, but there’s no place to put your hands and no appropriate place to hang your Walkman.  (Plus, you feel like you’ve gone to a party and everyone’s wearing the same thing.)  Personally, I happen to like being naked. It’s never bothered me.  I often get home from work, disrobe, and sit naked on my couch eating cereal.  (Did I just cross the line of too much information?)  Some people are uncomfortable naked.  I’m not.  What I do have a problem with, however, is being ugly and naked.  Statistics show that the number of people who enjoy nude sunbathing is proportionate to those who should put something on.  Like a tarp.  Or one of those tents that they use when they’re debugging a house.  That one of the reasons why I prefer the sanctity of my blanket.  I can feign sleep (or death, if necessary) should some naked old man approach me and start to discuss today’s undertow as he squats liberally in front of me.

Sunscreen:  I’d be remiss if I didn’t stress the importance of proper protection.  Those regions that rarely see the light of day are the first to succumb to the sun’s deadly rays.  Hence, watch your behind, or your buns will be toast.  As for – how do I say this politely – garnishing your weenie, yes, your little buddy needs sunblock, but remember, you’re in public.  There a fine line between safety and pleasure when applying lotion to Mr. Happy.  I’ve seen guys go at it like they’re greasing a fire pole.  So take it easy.  Don't make things hard on yourself.

When it comes to accessories, there are certain things you should and should not bring to a nude beach.  Telescopes and binoculars are definite no-nos.  You may think of this as a ball game, but I’m sure the Red Sox would beg to differ.  Likewise with a camcorder – carrying a video camera at a nude beach is the pervert’s equivalent of driving by a schoolyard with a van full of candy.  As for ready, avoid books with titles like Justice of the Piece.  Stick to Field and Stream, Reader’s Digest or the Gideon Bible.  Sunglasses are a must.  If you’re gonna ogle, at least do it behind your Maui Jims.

As for your random beach bump-ins, there are obvious encounters. Besides bodies that you’d rather not see naked, piercings are immensely popular.  Popular, I surmise, because they’re in places that wouldn’t necessarily be exposed at Publix (unless you shop at the new one by the bay).  I’ve seen nipples that look like parachute rip cords.

And below the belt, I’ve seen piercings that made me recoil.  (Come to think of it, I’ve seen coils down there, too.)  And little napkin rings.  And something called a Prince Albert.  I’ve seen less metal at a gun show.  And shaving.  Hmmmm.  Apparently trimming the hedges has become all the rage.  Some folks go for the close cropping; others like it smooth.  I haven’t seen topiary this creative since I was at the Botanical Gardens.

Nude sunbathing can be a kick, an exciting way to liven up an otherwise dull day at the beach.  For the ladies, it means being able to wear a sundress without worrying about unsightly strap lines.  For the guys, it means there’s no need to adjust the boys: it’s a wind sock now.  For all of us it means an escape, a break from our daily worries and cares, a moment’s freedom where less is so much more – except when it comes to that sunscreen.